“When people shake their heads because we are living in a restless age, ask them how they would like to live in a stationary one, and do without change?” ~ George Bernard Shaw
First and foremost, understanding that change is a natural, continuous, and necessary part of life is so important.
The world today is even more interconnected than ever. Shelter in place and stay at home has many feeling isolated and alone, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. We’re all in this together. Your journey through life is filled with changes. Some are expected, though often dreaded – like growing older, a body that changes shape, eyesight or hearing diminishing, gray hair – no hair! And although you know these changes are in store, there is often a moment in life when the realization of the change hits us.
The world is forced to concentrate on a different kind of change – externally provoked changes. The ones that are thrust on us and are not of our doing.
Before this pandemic, technology was what impacted the pace of change more than anything else in our world. In fact, you might be reading this on your mobile device.
If you were not born in the technology age, you probably tense up every time someone suggests that life would be easier with an iPhone, iPad, Kindle, or tablet. These kinds of technological changes can be stressful for so many, but chances are, with time, you’ll deal with the temporary anxiety and figure these things out or ask for help.
When a major external event causes a shift in your world, you will respond. As your world changes, so do you. If the situation is negative, your first reaction may include some negative emotions and responses, such as disbelief, confusion, anger, sadness, uncertainty, panic, and even fear.
1. Stop and take stock.
Stop and take stock. Even though you may be having a bad day or month, think about the many people and things you are grateful for. Focusing on those you love and what is good in your life at this moment is a powerful way of controlling your body's response to stress and keeping things in check.
2. Breathe deeply and slowly with focus.
This simple practice instantly reduces stress and allows you to tap into your inner energy from your internal resources, so you can find the solutions you need.
3. Know what you can and cannot control.
Take some time to write down the things that you are stressed about or fearful of. Once you’ve written them down, place a checkmark by the things you have control over or can influence the outcome. Review the other things on your list and acknowledge that you cannot control those items. When you do that, it’s time to commit to letting them go.
By making a conscious effort to stay positive your mind when life appears to be out of your control, you will arm yourself with the positive and resourceful energy you need to move forward.
Be kind to yourself, stay focused, and stay safe!